Unlearning Love: How to Open Your Heart Again

Heartbreak will have you questioning everything: love, trust, your instincts, even your taste in music. It’s not just a breakup; it’s a deep unraveling of who you thought you were and who you were learning to become. And finding love again after that? It’s less about looking for someone new and more about unlearning everything that closed your heart in the first place.

After pain, we build walls. Not the cute garden kind ... the tall, steel, “no entry” kind. We think protection equals peace, but really, it’s just fear with a new outfit. You can’t nurture who you are or invite real love in when you’re too busy guarding the door. At some point, you have to unlock it. Crack it open. Let the breeze, (and maybe a little hope) back in.

Here’s the truth: no one can love the real you if you’re hiding the real you. Love doesn’t thrive behind armor. It needs vulnerability, curiosity, and a little faith that you won’t fall apart again if things don’t go as planned. Healing doesn’t mean you stop believing, it means you learn to trust differently.

And here’s where God comes in. He’s not on a budget. He’s not stingy with blessings. He’s more than capable of giving you everything you need, including love, but He’ll never send something meant for the healed version of you while you’re still operating from the hurt one.

Your job isn’t to chase love. Your job is to become the kind of person who’s ready for it. That means listening when your gut whispers. Following your dreams even when you’re scared. Moving with purpose, not panic.

Because love isn’t lost, it’s just waiting for you to remember who TF you are. And when you do? It’ll recognize you. Whether it’s today, tomorrow, or ten years from now, it’ll show up. Because real love always finds you when you’ve finally found yourself.

Keep healing. Keep becoming. Your heart’s not done yet.